Day12 :Power &Control:8 Main Blocks Part 1-4

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POWER & CONTROL IS THE ABUSER`S DESIRE OVER YOU HIS/HER INTIMATE OTHER.

BLOCK No 1:-USING PRIVILEGE

• Treating you as lesser than.as a servant or some piece of garbage.
• Making all big decisions without consulting you or cancelling any you have made.
• Being the defining  boss making the rules and and giving out duties.
• Using their privilege as a “PASS”.It could be race,gender,socio-economic status etc.
• Putting you in danger .This is most common with new migrants by withholding documents.
• Cutting off your access to resources even  all social welfare resources.
• Using the system against you by giving false information

BLOCK NO 2:-USING INTIMIDATION

• Making you live in constant fear and afraid by purposely using looks,gestures,actions.
• Smashing things and banging tables.
• Abusing pets
• Displaying weapons
• In LGBTQ relationships;the abuser uses looks,actions,gestures,to Reinforce homophobic,biophobic or transphobic control

BLOCK 3:-USING COERCION &THREATS:

• Makingand/or carrying out threats to do something to harm you
• Threatening to leave or commit suicide
• Driving recklessly to frighten you
• Threatening to “Out” you-KILL YOU
• Threatening others who are important to you
• Stalking.

BLOCK 4:-USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

• Preventing you from getting and/or keeping a job
• Making you ask for money and you bear the shame of non-repayment.
• Interfering with your work or education ,and everyone knows who is the boss at home
• Using your credit cards without your permission
• Not working and requiring you to provide full support
• Keeping your name off joint investments.
• Checking and double checking on every single purchase .

Continue to part Block : 5-8 in the next article