Power & Control;Blocks 5-8
Unmasking Domestic Violence & Abuse Awareness
POWER & CONTROL IS THE ABUSER`S DESIRE OVER THEIR INTIMATE OTHER
BLOCK NO 5:-USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
- Putting you down-demeaning you to unworthiness
- Making you feel bad about yourself-low self-esteem
- Calling you names-verbal abuse
- Playing mind games-making you paranoid
- Making you feel guilty-uncertainity and doubtful.
- Humiliating you-leading to self -hate
- In LGBTQ intimate relationships:-QUESTIONING YOU-Are you a “Real”Lesbian,”Real”Man,”Real”Woman,”Real”Femme,”Real”Butsch;etc
- Reinforcing internalized Homophobia,Biophobia or Transphobia.
BLOCK NO 6:-USING ISOLATION.
- Controlling what you do,Who you see or Talk to.
- Limiting your outside activities
- Using Jealousy to control you
- Making you account for your whereabouts
- Saying no one will believe you and that you are their property.
- The above is especially common to intimate lesbian,gay, bisexual or trans relationships
- Not letting you go anywhere alone
- Appearing unannounced at private gathering eg a work party etc
BLOCK 7:-USING CHILDREN:
- Making you feel guilty about the children e.g hurt when playing outside.
- Using children to relay messages usually of a demeaning kind .
- Threatening to take away the children.(usually why abused never leave)
- For LGBTQ
- Threatening to tell the ex-spouse ,parents , work place or authorities that you are lesbian,gay,bisexual or trans so they will take the children
BLOCK 8:-DENYING:MINIMIZING & BLAMING:
- Making light of the abuse
- Saying it did not happen
- Shifting responsibilty for abusive behavior
- Saying it is your fault,you deserved it
- Accusing you of mutual abuse
- Saying it is just “fighting” and not abuse.
- In LGBTQ relationships:-Saying women can´t abuse women,and men can´t abuse men.
Do you identify yourself in any of these abuses? If Yes , it is important that you come out of Denial.You are and can be Courageous enough to talk to Someone about what is happening in your relationship.The intimate relationship could be “Dating” or a relative or sibling or grown child living with you.Where children minors remember it is your responsibility to ensure they are well nurtured.AN ABUSIVE PERSON IS NOT A LOVING PARENT,”No EXCUSES!”.Children Become Victims as WITNESSES to Domestic Violence and Abuse.This has long term effects ,what is termed trauma.ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT.Seek Help!
