When Out is the only Option

You can not keep on reacting in the same manner and expect different resultsYou have a responsibility to your children or those who are incapable of fending for themselves ;the young and elderly. You have an obligation to nurture them and make sure they are safe and content.I am imagining that l am talking to someone who earns less ,has been isolated ,is not allowed to work or is financially controlled.Your spouse or intimate partner is abusive , hostile and everybody in that house walks on eggshells when he/she:The Abuser is around.This is a menacing situation and a very toxic environment. You have no excuse to remain bonded to a person who molests you at whim in ways that are totally inhumane.Take a moment and take a good ,long look at your children. Do you see how terrified they are?.Every blow you receive is felt by that child.Every abusive word that monster utters is stored in your child`s collection of new words.(their memory)This year 2021 is no longer a time of memorizing the Red-flags and stopping at that .It is Now the Time to Rewrite Your Story.Exit is the safe way out in order to give the Abuser a chance to be rehabilitated if they So Wish .You can not change a person  if they do not want to change their attitude and behaviour. All domestic violence abusers biggest desire is to gain  control and maintain power over their victims.They enjoy when their victims kneel before them as if they were small gods.You have to make a conscious  effort and make a declaration to yourself to take precautions and Say No to any more violence on yourself. You have to desire to move on and live the life of your dreams in peace and with dignity.You can do it!

• Seek Help ;Talk to someone
• Report assault,if any to the police.
• Seek shelter.Search on the internet there is plenty of help out there.Many are looking out to help victim’s like yourself.inbox for help/assistance
• Journal,for future proof.It also helps you to realise you are not imagining things.This abuse is Real!
• Pack relevant papers and a light bag with your essentials for you and your children.
• If he/she has ever threatened to harm you ,do not take it lightly.DO NOT Try  to move out in his/her  presence alone without authority /police/a strong family member.This is the most dangerous time.
• Make 2021 your year of inner peace .Start bonding with your young ones in a healthy home.They deserve that!You deserve that!It is never impossible or too late unless you decide it is!
• (You have the last word on the decision .It is your power not his or hers)
•  A Big Hug of Love