Unless and until a person who is undergoing domestic violence and abuse understands that it is not their fault,they are a prisoner to untruths.How does one know that they are being domestically abused and that they can actually come out of it ?It all starts with self-educating yourself.To win any game, one must pay attention ,study and learn how to block their opponents moves.For every opponent win,the loser must never give up ,but bid their time.They soon master the secret moves, while simultaneously ,the constant winner relaxes their guard ,is careless and with great pride make huge assumptions.We are referring to the domestic violence and other forms of abuse .What takes most victims by sheer surprise is the unbelief that they were lured by a calculative abuser into a trap.The shock of it all is that the foundation was a lie .In this game of “love”,the desire of the abuser was to gain power and maintain control over their unsuspecting partner.The victim in this case has been snared and loses always in their conquest of pleasing and loving moves.But as time goes by , the abuser relaxes their guard,satisfied of their strength .Meanwhile,the victim slowly becomes aware of their dire situation and questions about their sanity .What once was love or a till death do us part is but a mirage.
Can the victim regain their power and snap the control cord?Yes they can!There is not only hope but also a turning of the tables.The solution is in the decision to Seek Help.A first step to convince themselves they are not imagining or dreaming is writing it down the incidents,this is hugely important.Simply Journal the Situation.
Write down the plain facts of the abuse without judging .Do not try to understand why it happened or try to explain anything on paper.The minute you try explaining or judging you will go into denial or minimize the abuse.The best position is that of “the witness stand”,as though you watched it happen to another. A simple example is as follows.”AZ on 01.04 2021 at 11 a.m came home….beat me, abused me,and l have bruises all over”…or “AZ refused to give me money for food yesterday 02.04.2021 and l slept hungry and later…..sexually assaulted me”. READ it loud to yourself.Ask yourself:What next? It will happen again, that l can almost guarantee you.SEEK HELP!Call the nearest domestic violence office or better still go report to the authorities .You must make a decision to save yourself from insanity.You do have a choice.Inbox for assistance for reference.Read the other detailed blogs.You are not alone. Make a decision.No one can do it for you.Step out;others will step in with you. 
