No matter where you are in this space and time, or what you are experiencing, whether it is violations as a victim or trauma as a survivor of DVA, know ye that this is not permanent. This is neither your destiny nor a position that you should resign to. Do not self-pity nor dislike yourself. There is a Niche`; a Unique aspect, a Valuable Gem implanted in you by The Creator. How Can I Start Accessing IT, You Ask? After identifying the Red Flags and realising that we are in deep trouble, out of FEAR, We either …..
- Freeze: blame ourselves, accept our destiny, decide that we will be better persons and change the abuser through our submissiveness. In DVA, termed “minimising”.
- Take Flight-take off, run away. This is fine, but you need a safety plan and help.
- Fight back-this is a non-violent, intelligent tactic we use as Dignity visionaries. How?
BE A GOOD FRIEND TO THE FEAR: This is a courageous and beautiful strategy that dignity visionaries choose. We take a quiet moment and admit we do not know and therefore Ask Ourselves a very vulnerable but sincere question: “What is it that l am Sincerely Afraid of?”.It is crazy, but simply the best. First, you put yourself in a position of power by Being Authentic, Bold and True to Yourself. It is your first step to achieving a breakthrough. Secondly, you Accept Yourself with these thoughts:
- The abuser is no greater nor lesser of a human being than me.
- The only reason l fear them is because they have violated my natural, inherent, inborn right to dignity.
- I am a child of The Highest.
- I did nothing wrong. I did what l knew best.
- I will not accept this kind of humiliation anymore.
- My Truth has set me free to think straight. I am wiser, and l have a choice.
TIPS: DO NOT FREEZE; it is dangerous and of no help to you. Do NOT TAKE OFF without a Safety Plan. Report to the police and other authorities if there is violence.ASK for Help! Talk to someone and get advice: Legal, Parent, Family member, Friend, DVA services like Shelters or Hotlines. Do something, and this is a Non-violent Fight. Read on my Safety Plan and Help articles. Become a Dignity Visionary. Join our Domestic Violence Nest on Facebook Group. Big Hug of Love
