Driven into Solitary Confinement

When you hear the word domestic violence in a relationship, you first think about the physical signs caused by blows, slaps or strangulation. What if you discovered that Abusers are becoming more sophisticated with their methods of abuse to protect their outward image and reputation? How would you react if l told you there are domestic abusers in authoritative career positions of justice, medicine, teaching, spiritual, security, guidance and other powerful spaces? Abusers are calculative people who deliberately target their victims. These are usually intimate partners or ex-partners, dating or spouses. An abuser’s goal is to humiliate their victim and gain complete control over them . Abusers also desire to maintain that power, and they will use whatever tactics they can to achieve their mission.

Isolation is one method that the abuser uses. They separate their victim through physical, technical or verbal means from interacting freely with their friends and family. They will continuously convince the victim that nobody will come to their rescue, nobody cares about them, and they are entirely depandent on their abuser for survival, even when this is not the case. Social isolation is evil and devasting. It is used by oppressors to lead victims into deep sadness and beliefs of being unworthy. The abuser thrives in the situation and increases their oppressive power by monitoring the victim’s movements and interactions. There is a lack of respect for privacy, and the abuser will browse through phone messages and constantly accuse their partner of unfaithfulness. This can be as absurd as a mere short conversation between the victim and a cashier of the opposite sex at the supermarket cash register. Unwarranted jealousy episodes usually end up in physical or verbal abuse, and to avoid future beatings and conflicts, the victim eventually retreats into staying indoors and not picking up calls from friends and family. In isolation incidents, most victims lose their jobs because they are not flexible to attend after-work or weekend company training or other job assignments that might require employees to travel out of the city or country. Lack of self-esteem, anxiety and panic attacks out of fear, intimidation and constant humiliation in public and in privacy kick in. The victim’s mental state is weakened and their self-confidence disappears as their dignity and respect have been violated beyond endurance.

Tip: If you or you suspect or know of a loved one in such a tragic situation, you need to seek help. Call the domestic violence hotline numbers. Talk to someone. You can also email me for a chat: at wakamauson12@gmail.com or WhatsApp call: Charity.+4915731050950.