Intimate Immigrant Domestic Violence & Abuse

Where there is intimate partner violence (IPV) or domestic violence and abuse (DVA), the primary goal of the abuser is to gain control over their targeted victim and maintain that controlling power. The main reason why most victims never see the red flags of the abuse is that they can never fathom the idea that their loved one, be it a spouse, live-in partner, date, sibling, parent, child, or close live-in relative, would deliberately come up with an idea to harm them. There is usually a lot of trust built up behind the dream of love, either as a soul mate or bloodline relative. The victim is then caught unawares and perplexed when the relationship takes on a sour cause. For today’s article, we shall concentrate on intimate partner violence(IPV) cases.

When violence and abuse creep into an intimate relationship, the victim feels lost and intimidated. Their dreams are shattered, and their self-esteem and security are lowered. The mounting feeling of insignificance in the confines of their home is like being in a cage, isolated and not knowing whom to ask for help or what to do. The anger and hate in their partner’s eyes, words and actions leave the victim with many conflicting emotions. The biggest of them all is FEAR, The Fear of not being worthy, of not belonging in the new land, and the fear of being deported, which arises from the fact that the victim has been threatened with misinformation.
In most cases, the victim has also been intentionally isolated from their community, and the language barrier is pronounced since they have been denied social interactions, education at the language school and forbidden to work. The FEAR is Real and usually takes a toll on the victim’s health, making them very scared, paranoid and depressed. Their plans for a prosperous future are shattered as they find themselves imprisoned in their new home in a foreign land.

If you read today’s article and are this person, l want to give you hope. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Do not hesitate to ask for help. There is help for you out there . Read the articles on this website to create self-awareness for your personal dignity.

It does not matter what your abuser tries to convince you. The truth is the following:

Domestic violence and abuse is a criminal offence.

Verbal abuse is a criminal offence.

Stalking is a criminal offence.

You have a right to work and to get an education.

You have a right to social service help, and if you are a victim of any form of abuse, you have a right to get yourself into a Shelter House.

It is a human rights violation to deny another person freedom of movement, health care, and other dignity rights.

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