I Am Isolated!I have no one to tell…

DVA is usually associated with physical acts of violence . However, we need to recognise that there is a more incredible abuse: “ISOLATION”.Friends and family might be confused and conclude the Victim is simply aloof and proud. However, Isolation occurs in a wide range of family relationships. Married and unmarried couples, former spouses, children and extended family members and especially on the elderly and disabled.

Isolation plays a significant role in DVA. It separates the Victim from their family, friends, and outside activities and communication. Abusers humiliate, .intimidate, threaten, manipulate and coerce their victims into doing what they want and keeping them on a leash. Isolation is a dangerous tactic and the typical weapon used by abusers to lock up their victims so they can not reach out for help.

What are the RED SIGNS OF ISOLATION?

• Isolation separates the Victim from their family and friends.
• Abusers humiliate, intimidate, threaten, manipulate and force their victims into a modern-day slavery situation.
• They understand that Isolation results from the actions of being locked up physically and mentally. The Abuser is the ultimate boss and decision-maker of all about that relationship.
• The intention of the Abuser in isolating their Victim is so that they may remain uninformed and ignorant.
• The Abuser will prevent their Victim from reading or watching television and logging onto the Social media pages like Facebook, Instagram etc.
• The Victim will be required to report their whereabouts throughout the day.
• The Victim must be at the beck and call of their Abuser. A missed call o a call not been picked up immediately will warrant some form of punishment that day.
• The Abuser will display very high jealous behaviour when you are out of the house or in the car. The Victim will be cautious where they look lest it is in the direction of the opposite sex. The Abuser will fly into a rage and at times publically assault the Victim or innocent bystander.
• Isolation has the consequences of making the Victim feel invisible: unheard and unseen.
• Threats of harm to the victims family and friends make the Victim make a wise decision to keep away for their sake.

WHAT CAN THE VICTIM OR YOU DO ?

Seek Help! As a Victim of DVA or a loved one to victims, it is crucial to understand that seeking help might seem like a milestone. But It is the only way to save yourself, your children and return to an everyday life free of fear and with freedom of movement. So let us understand why it seems complicated.

• If it has persisted for years, making it an accepted way of life for the Victim.
• If the Victim is in a foreign country or town, they lack the information of the laws of the place.
• No contact has made the Victim lose courage, self-worth and self-esteem.
• If the Victim has no financial resources, they have no means of escape.
• If the Victim has no access to the phone or internet, they can not tell anybody of their situation.
• If the Abuser has made sure friends and family believe the Victim is sick and the Abuser is admired and seen as the Victim.

But It is POSSIBLE!!! Every day, victims are getting out, and as Survivors discover it was All A Lie!

Call the Hotlines.