The Domestic Abusive Shadow

Are you living under the shadow of an abusive domestic partner? Are you leading a life of being in constant fear, intimidated and controlled? Do you constantly feel obliged to seek permission from your partner before making personal decisions like buying yourself a shoe or having a hairdo? Do you think it is not right to enjoy yourself unless your partner is present and “me-time” does not exist in your life? Are you usually apprehensive and always get a sense of being watched? Are you made to feel incompetent and confirm yourself as a wreck by the statements you constantly tell yourself: “l am such a wreck!I cant seem to do anything right.”

If you answered YES, you have a harsh shadow as your intimate partner. They are hindering your progress . Further abuse is that they isolate you from friends and family. They monitor your social media pages and decide with whom you can have contact, for how long and to which social media pages you can subscribe. The shadow will lie to you that they are your protector and that without them, you are doomed. Their frequent love bombing makes you confused, and you believe they are your soul mate or heaven’s choice for you. Let us get real through an Awareness Tip: You are a child of God, with a conscious mind and free will was moulded into you at conception. The fact in human beings is that Dignity, the right to be seen and heard, is your natural right. You have a right to dream the life you desire and to envision a peaceful marital or dating partnership. Creating a healthy atmosphere in your home and financial stability is a great vision. A Dream, however, doesn’t become a reality unless you work towards it deliberately. Nobody can make you happy. You must be willing and determined to be satisfied. You have to create boundaries and say No to violating your Dignity. Your intention to live safely must be solid.

• Journal your thoughts often to address internal issues, good or bad.
• Write down short and long-term goals, and do not limit yourself.
• Trust your instincts, especially the red flags and note them in your secret journal.
• With a lot of compassion and self-love, examine your present status and resolve what Changes you want to see in your life.
• If you are in a dangerous situation, seek professional help. Report to the authorities any assaults or threats. Even words like “l will kill you if you…” are considered criminal offences in most countries.
• Read other articles on this website to familiarize yourself with domestic violence and abuse.
• Google; “I need help” to locate centres and helplines in your area.
• Talk to a marital counsellor or a friend you trust. Do not prolong the abuse; you do not deserve it!
• “Take Care. Big Hug.!”